4 more days in the PINK!  A little layering today.  I think I’ll wear my pink tank underneath a shirt and then a sweater on top for some added warmth or maybe my denim jacket. 

Today, I’m off to a new client to work with her on her colors and style.  I was writing this morning how I do love to do this.  It is so much fun to help people discover their colors but really who they are on the inside.  We have a tendency to lose our inner child just a little as we get older and to re-discover that child is so heartening!

I’m reading P.M. Forni’s book called The Civility Solution-What to DO When People Are Rude.   I think that it is interesting the point he makes between focused and unfocused rudeness.  You know we all can be rude at times, so none of us are immune to either sending or received rude behavior.  The difference between focused and unfocused rudeness is the intent. 

Focused rude behavior is mean spirited and it’s sole purpose is to demean and make you feel powerful.  It’s a control thing.  Forni gives the example in his book about a woman who has on white tennis shoes.  How many of us have had the strong desire to step on someone’s new white athletic shoes when we first see them.  I dare say most out there have had a little nudge.  The difference is acting on it.  Domineering, mean spirited people will act on it where as those who are not – won’t.

It has been noted that about 1 million American workers miss work each day simply because of stress.  That stress has been uncovered as being prompted by people issues.  You’ve heard the adage it takes more muscles to frown than to smile!    As we enter the holiday season, let’s try to lean toward focused kindness rather than rude behavior.  Frown and everyone will know what you are up to-smile and people will wonder!  Try it for a day and see how your day ends.

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Posted by: Karen Hughes, Founder of Image Assets, an Image Consulting Firm serving the Alpharetta and Metro Atlanta areas. As a seasoned certified image consultant, Karen follows a simple philosophy: educate, empower, and enrich the lives of her clients. Her philosophy is enmeshed throughout her practice and can be observed in her workshops, clinics, and one-on-one consultations. Her energetic and interactive style makes her a sought-after training resource for organizations and individuals alike. Even the most difficult topics seem effortless for Karen as she tackles such challenges as professional etiquette, business dress personal image and body shape.

Posted by Karen Hughes on October 27th, 2009 in Articles, Breast Cancer Awareness, Etiquette